Minggu, 06 Januari 2008

BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE AMONG CHILDREN

BUILDING SEF-CONFIDENCE AMONG CHILDREN
OlehWulan Yulia, S.PSi
Certainly, every parents want their child(ren) achieve their optimum growth and development, to be intelligent people, exert themselves with full self-confidence and righteous. For their children have self-confidemce in them, there are several factors their parents should be consider and rewuire their special attentions.especially in terms of their nursery patterns at home. Improper nursery patterns were closely associated with lower self-sonfidence among childrem. There are somet tips to be taken into account, if you wan tobuild SELF-CONFIIDENCE among your children. Some of them,but certainly not limited to, are as follows:
1.Parents Encourage Their Children to be Independent Person. Parents should emcourage their children to be independent person and this should be applied as early possible duuring their early development stages, depending on their ages and abilities such as learning to wear their own clothes, having their lunch themselves, or rearranging their toys themselves. Overprotected parents will generally producfe uninteded,harmful effects on their children, due to the lack of opportnities on the part of the latter to search new things on their own.
2.Parents Accept the Strenghts and Weaknesses of Their Children. Every child was born with its different potentials. Parents should be aware and accept any and every strength and weakness of their own children. Over-demanding parents who ignore the limited capacities of their children will make them frustated that will entail low-confidence among them. In addition, do not ever compare your chiildren one and another.
3.Parents Grant Rewards If your children succeed in performing any of their task, give them reward in form of huging, kissing, or appreciation. It would be better that parents avoid over-criticizing their children.If you want to improve your children's work, do it by formulating positive language such as: "Your writing is good, and it would better if..."
4.Parents Shall Pay Attention and Give Love. Parents shall not apply too much punishments to their children, because if they do so, then their chidren will felt that they were denied and were not been appreciared properly. It would be better that parents pay attention and love, for these will create comfort in them.
5.Parents Encourage Their Children to Develop Their Own Interests and Talents. Every child was born with its different talents. It would be better that, therefore, parents provides their children full opportunities to develop their own interests and talents.
6.Parents Encourage Their Children to be Self-Motivated. If there is any sign that a child has developed poor self-confidence, then his or her parents shall encourage himor her to motivate himself or herself through SELF TALK such as "I can do this job!" to the ectent that he or she would beoptimistics.
7.Parent Provide Their Children Opportinities to Express their own opinion..Basically, every child wants to be appreciated and, therefore, they should be provided with opportunity to express their own views or views/ For instance, if a family is planning a vacancies, the parents should inviolve their children to discuss it such as to choose their preferred story book or colors oftheir clothes